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Coffee Break 1.46

Another coffee break question from Jan:



A lot of little things make me smile, most of it (not all though) revolving around my little family :). See, I'm smiling already!

  • My child's laughter -- That's why we love tickling him. It's music to our ears.
  • The way my child says "mommy"...
  • My child's kisses, especially his good night kisses on my cheeks on my tummy (for Baby Inside)
  • Seeing my little boy nestled up with my husband
  • Looking at my son's pictures
  • Looking at my baby's pictures
  • Looking at my wedding pictures
  • Looking at MY pictures from babyhood to childhood to school
  • Seeing a grateful patient
  • Late night dates with the hubby -- which are actually DVD marathons while the baby is asleep. (Can't do that lately coz I'm always sleepy)
  • Seeing my little boy with his grandmas.
There are lots, lots more. I am very happy that I do not need material things to make me happy and my family gives me all the reasons in the world to smile.

Coffee Break 1,45 And A Christmas Survey

Christmas is in the air!

For us Filipinos, Christmas is probably the most important holiday of the year. We start thinking Christmas after all soul's day has gone. We buy gifts for almost everyone we know. We attend parties. We eat to our heart's content! We decorate our homes.

In line with this, Jan asks in this week's coffee break:

My reply:
  • My budget - If I don't have extra money to burn, I'll have to go with less expensive gifts, or give less people
  • Age and gender of the recipient
  • My relationship with the recipient - Of course, the closer the person is to me, the more likely he or she will be on my Christmas list.
  • My situation at the time - Chinese custom dictates that mourning families should not give gifts and other people should understand about it. The year my dad died, we didn't give any gifts because, although we were following tradition, the truth is that nobody was in the mood for Christmas shopping.
I've made another post on my other blog about my tips for people who have a long Christmas list.

In line with Christmas, Dneero also has a survey on this. Here goes:



coffee break ver. 1.44

This is another coffee break question by Jan:



My faves are the following:

1. Amazing Race
I love the excitement of this race, the search and the deciphering of the clues, the tasks and the fact that the partners really should work with each other. And, that there's really no judging...whoever comes first at the end wins.

2. American Idol
I am a frustrated singer myself, and I love seeing if my choices would jibe with the judges and/or the text voter's choices. I love the fact that it seems to be getting better and better. And some of the auditions are really very funny! The Philippine version just does not have the same appeal for me, but perhaps it's because it's still pretty new.

3. I had to think long and hard for this. But finally I think I like Pinoy Big Brother also. You can see how the people in bahay ni kiua interact with each other, although I would wonder how much of it is true. And I like the fact that the power of the housemates in eliminating the other members is only limited to nominating people, not outright eliminating it (which is done by the text votes).

It's a pity I do not get to watch these as often as I'd like to. Nowadays my "reality show" is watching my son grow before my very eyes.

Coffee Break 1.41

Here's another coffee break question by Jan:



Being a little older means I have different groups of friends from different stages in my life. In general, we reminisce about the time that we had together, the people we knew, people/events/places during that stage of our lives.

For example, I was in high school in the eightees, so, baduy as it seems, we sometimes reminisce about the Bagets movies, Top Gun (with a young Tom Cruise), new wave music, and Madonna when she was young. We chuckle about some pranks pulled by our classmates. We remember some of the teachers, for both good reasons and otherwise.

But mostly, we update ourselves on what's going on in our lives. We trade stories of our jobs and our families. We wonder about our friends who have been MIA for quite a while. It doesn't really matter which group of friends it is, as long as we meet again, it's like we have so much to talk about.

Coffee break ver. 1.40

Another Coffee Break question from Jan:


I've always loved talking with my cousin Garvin. He was what my husband would consider an old soul. He was always startling us with surprisingly adult conversations even when he was less than 10 years old. He was so mature for his age.

One Christmas (I don't know how old he was), my mom brought him to National Bookstore to buy him a present. She gave him a 500 peso bill to spend in whatever way he chose.

Garvin: You don't have to give me a gift, A-ko (aunt).
My mom: But I want to. Here's the money, buy anything you want and use it up.
Garvin: OK

After a while....

My mom: Haven't you picked anything yet?
Garvin: Nothing yet. Everything's so expensive. Sayang pera

After a while, he finally chose a book worth much less than 500 pesos, paid for it, and gave the change to my mother.
My mom: O, that's it? You still have some money to spend.
Garvin: This is okay na, A-ko. Thank you very much! I like this and it's enough for my Christmas gift.

My mom was so proud of him! I was too! It goes to show how good a child he really was, and what a fine adult he would have turned out to be.

I miss him a lot! He would have loved playing (young) uncle to my son. Oh well, I guess God has other plans for him.

Coffee break ver. 1.39

Another coffeebreak question from Jan:



My short answer is: NO! A double MURDER? Absolutely not. 3 years is not enough time for him to pay off his crime.

I admit I was still willing to give PGMA a little bit of slack. I actually pitied her sometimes for having so many detractors because I believe that SOME of her decisions have some basis, one way or another.

But for her to actually give pardon to SEVERAL big name criminals who are neither old, sick nor inform...This is way too much! Sure, she CAN give pardon, but she must have used that power wisely. This certainly lowers my opinion of her several notches. The people who advised her to do this are themselves criminals.

Coffee break ver. 1.38

Coffee break from Jan!



I actually don't know many...or I've forgotten some of them. I've heard of siblings named Amen and Alleluia. I guess their parents are religious. I've got to admit...there's a quite a nice ring to their names, don't you think?

Of course, there's the model known as Apple who has an equally beautiful sister named Orange. I'm just not sure if those were their real names or not.

I also know a little girl named Christmas...who was born in September and somebody named July who was born in August. Their parents must have had their own reasons for those names.

I'll post some more if I think of any. :)

Coffee Break ver. 1.35

Jan shared a personal experience of being healed by prayer. Her father got better and her family believes it is all through the Lord's power. She then wants to know:


Being a doctor, I sometimes feel that I've seen it all. I've seen patients die. I've seen families lose hope. My own father died of cancer 8 years ago (yesterday was his anniversary).

I know that we doctors can only do our best, that the final outcome is still not up to us. There are times when we have had to tell the family that there is really nothing more that we can do.

My father lived for almost 2 years after being diagnosed with late stage lung cancer. Looking back, I feel that it was really the Lord's will that he died when he did, because cancer and chemotherapy had already taken its toll on his body. He was constantly have aches and pains that we could only imagine.

My mother rediscovered prayer after my father died. She's a Buddhist but she was not really very actively practicing before. Her close friends urged her to join the prayers and ceremonies for the dead. I saw her emerge from her depression via prayers.

She was again plunged into a series of deaths after that, and each time, prayers saved her.

The last time was back in December 2004, when her brother and his family vacationed in Thailand. The shocking after-Christmas news was that they were there when the tsunami struck. Prayers didn't save the lives of my uncle and my cousins, but they did help us put things into perspective and helped mom through her extreme grief.

I'm so sorry, Jan, that this may not be what you expected, but I'd like to say that sometimes it's really not up to us. Things happen, and though they may seem like God has forsaken us, in truth, he has not. We don't know what his plans are, but we do know that God knows best.

Coffee break ver. 1.33

I just can't resist this coffee break question by Jan:



I just love how people seem to become so much nicer when it's Christmas time! Really, the Christmas spirit is alive and well for most people. It's not just about the gifts, the Christmas songs, the decors...It's not about Santa Claus.

Lest we forget, Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birth. The whole world is rejoicing. The whole world celebrates. And people seem to smile more. People seem to be more forgiving...and giving!

Thanks, Jan! You've just reminded me to start my Christmas list already :)

coffee break ver. 1.33

A new coffee break topic from Jan:

It really depends if I am driving or not, and if my ride was a car or public transportation :)

If I'm driving, there's really not much I can do--
  • I think -- about a lot of things -- a good blog topic, my son's birthday celebration, a good money-making venture, problematic cases, etc.
  • I answer text messages, but only when I'm on full stop.
  • I listen to the radio, mostly news. This way, I can at least catch up on news.
  • I've tried some audio books before and I've always thought it would be a great idea to listen to them on the car. I shelved the idea though, when I realized that I couldn't concentrate on driving while listening intently. But I do think this would be a good idea for those long stretches of traffic.
If I'm a passenger in a private car --
  • I talk to the one who's driving! That way we're both distracted from the traffic.
  • If I'm very tired and sleepy, I try to sleep.
If I'm a passenger in a bus or a jeep or even the LRT, I actually spend most of my time to make sure my bag and stuff are safe from pickpockets and snatchers!

Coffee break ver. 1.32

Another coffee break from Jan.




I was pretty "nerdy" and "square" during high school, so most of of my concerns were about my studies. I worried if my grades would be good enough for me for me and my parents. Mind you, they should not only be "passing", but they should be a bit higher, if possible. I worried if I would be able to get a high grade in NCEE (since my school had high standards and it's known that nobody scores less than 90). I worried if I would be able to be good enough to eventually land medical school.

I worried about getting scolded by my parents (still do). That's why I try to live by their rules, observing a curfew whenever I go out (usually a driver brings me to and from the place) and shaking in fear whenever I break any rule.

I worried about why I wasn't invited to certain parties. Am I not "in" enough? Am I not friendly enough? When I do get to a party, I worry about why boys didn't ask me to dance. Was it my dress? Was it my hair? Was it me?

I didn't worry too much about clothes (we had uniforms anyway), boys (didn't think of dating till later, even then, my parents forbade me to at that early stage), money (my parents gave us all we needed and some of what we wanted, even if there may be some difficulties along the way, and I was never "maluho" anyway.).

coffee break ver. 1.31

This week's coffee break question from Jan:



Honestly, I really do not know if there will come a time that our athletes will shine better in the international arena. The problem with our athletes is primarily the lack of support, unlike other countries in which the athletes are really full time athletes. Here, most of our athletes need to earn for their families, so they do not really devote their full energies towards training. Especially since they are considered amateurs. A lot of our athletes who do relatively well are, sadly, self trained, meaning their parents sponsored their trainings.

It's a difficult question to answer, but there's a bright side to this. This is definitely possible, even if it would not be easy at all.

First, some support for the higher ups would be great. We know there are sports scholarships in schools. Why not give incentives for these schools to churn out great athletes? For example, if UST manages to train a swimmer who breaks some record or wins some medal, the school itself will also get some sort of "reward". Like maybe something as simple as tax discounts (if there are taxes in school -- I'm not really sure about this) or at least some sort of recognition.

Secondly, get sponsors for the athletes. If the athletes are to train in their respective sports, and especially if there is a big event like the Olympics, it would be better if he or she does not have to think about how much time will be lost because he's not working. Give them an allowance commensurate to what they would have received. Maybe give them housing too, in some athletic village, where theirr families could also live, so that they would not have to worry about where to live. With the numerous companies involved in sports related products, if we get them as athletes, they would have a good advertising deal and we would probably get better athletes.

I'm really no expert, so some of my ideas may seem funny. :( Bottomline is, anything that needs training needs the person to be completely focused. This includes athletes and sports. It would be difficult to focus if "practical" matters distract the athletes from sports glory.

Coffee Break Ver. 1.29

What's in your everyday bag? This week's coffee break question by Jan.

Oh, wow! What's in the-working-mom's bag? Let's have a look see:



wallet
pens
pressed powder, blush and lip gloss
keys
cellphone
bills to be paid
small bottle of alcohol
traveller's toothbrush and toothpaste
tissue paper
calling cards
coin purse

Standard handbag items, I believe? I do wish I could get rid of some of these but I can't. :( How do men cope without a handbag?

What does this say about my personality? :)

Coffee Break ver. 1.28

This week's coffee break question by Jan: How much sleep is enough to keep you rejuvenated for the next day?

Hmmm, I never really thought about that. I do not count my sleep in the number of hours I sleep at a stretch, because sometimes I feel I do not get to do that anymore.

When I was in medical school, and then later when I became a medical clerk, then an intern, I realize that I no longer have a fixed sleeping schedule. So I just sleep whenever and wherever. Catnaps were my savior. I can sleep for a few minutes standing up (but leaning on a wall, that is) if I am really very tired. I sleep in the car or public transportation (very dangerous, I know, but when you're really very tired, you just can't help it). I sleep on hard benches in the call room during the times that there are no patients who need my attention (we had 36 hour duties, and I do not believe I can go the whole distance without snatching some sleep in between).

Now that I'm a mom, I find my sleep is dictated by what my son needs. When he was a newborn, he's awake at night and asleep most of the day, so my body rhythm adjusted to him. Meaning, I sleep when he sleeps, even if it's daytime, so that I can be awake when he is awake. Now, he's bigger and sleeps through the night, so I can do stuff like blogging whenever he's asleep, like now, :).

So, to answer the question, there is no set hours really. I sleep when I feel tired already and wake up naturally or wake up when needed.

Coffee Break ver. 1.27

This week's coffee break question by Jan:

What baduy love song do you like listening to?

Naku, I am a very mushy person and I do listen to A LOT of songs which some people consider baduy (cheesy). But I think, a lot of times, the beauty (or kabaduyan) really depends on the listener. Basta ako enjoy ako dito! Hehehe

Here they are, in no particular order:

  • Mula sa Puso
  • I'm All Out of Love and other Air Supply Songs
  • I Will Always Love You
  • Hoplessly Devoted To You
  • can this be love
  • kailan
  • Ikaw Pa Rin
  • You
  • It Might Be You
  • Miss na Miss Kita
  • Against All Odds
I love a lot of long songs. But some of them I really do not consider baduy at all so I didn't include them here.

coffee break ver. 1.23

This week's coffee break question: How would you reward yourself after a long day at work?

I guess seeing my son is already a reward. When I call out his name when I'm home, I hear fast, frantic footsteps on the wooden floor upstairs and I smile. Turns out he couldn't get out because of the safety first gate and he was telling his grandma: "Mommy, Mommy" meaning I'm home and and he wants to see me.

And the big big smile on his face complete with dimples on both cheeks...these are enough to just let all the tiredness from work melt away.

...but then I get tired again when I have to run after him when he's playing! LOL

Ah, the joys of being mom.

Coffee Break ver 1.22

Jan asks: What are your top 3 gift suggestions this Father's Day?

Since my father has already passed away, my gift suggestions would be for my husband :) . These are the things that he really, really wants.

  1. A house
  2. A new car
  3. A vacation
Hahaha! Fortunately, these are things I also want! Unfortunately, we cannot afford these just yet. So, the next list is the more realistic list:
  1. An Original Rubik's Cube -- He is so much into these nowadays! He actually already has quite a few in this (new) collection, of different sizes, shapes and designs. He also has a jumbo one, one 5x5 and one 2x2. I already bought him one original Rubik's cube from Toys R Us but he still wants another one. So, this would probably be a good gift choice for him.
  2. A new mattress -- Ours is old and not comfortable anymore. So actually this is for the 3 of us (because the kiddo sleeps with us) to save all our backs!
  3. New clothes -- I think all of us need a wardrobe change once in a while. He is no exception.
I know my choices maybe boring, but then I unfortunately cannot afford to give him more expensive "toys" since I do not have the budget for it. :( My dear, I promise that I'll give you better stuff later, if and when I can afford it already (when I hit the lotto jackpot? hahaha). Happy Father's Day!

Coffee Break ver. 1.21: My Memories of Grade School

How were you like as a grade school student?

This is so long ago already!

I was in a Catholic Chinese Filipino school so we had a lot of subjects and assignments, although I didn't realize it then. It was now when I compare our schedules and assignments with those who finished grade school in other schools that I realize that we had a lot more requirements. What do you expect, since Religion and 2 subjects in Chinese were required subjects? :)

I remember that I was a pretty well behaved kid. Too quiet at times. But then teachers of a big class (there are around 40-55 of us in one classroon) appreciate quiet students more than the noisy ones, so I guess they do think positively of me.

I was a slow eater so I used up all my lunch hour just for lunch. My mother insisted on hot food so she didn't think of just packing the baon in the morning and letting me bring it to school. My yaya had to bring it to me during lunchtime and wait for me to finish so she can bring back the lunchbox. Which was such a hassle for all involved, since my school and home were not exactly beside each other. There were a lot of times when my lunch was late so I only had a limited time to eat it. Later mom just paid for my being a "lunch boarder", which means the school serves lunch everyday and she pays for it every month.

I was always a dark horse but never a top contender. Meaning that although I was never in any race for the gold, silver or bronze medalists, the teachers oftentimes find my grade in the quizzes and exams among the top. Sometimes I do top the exam. But my average grades were good enough for 10 ten, but never in the striking distance of the top three. So my parents never had the distinction of going onstage to pin a medal on me.

I remember being teased a lot. And I was so pikon. :)

Games? I sometimes get asked to join, sometimes not. (A lot of times not). Children do get their own cliques already, and sometimes they are brutally frank if they do not like you to be a part of that. I was more of a loner. Good thing I loved books more than running around. Later on, when I grew up, I realized that, yes, children can be cruel in saying you do not belong to their group, but in the real world, you do encounter people who do not accept you at all. It's really a preview of the real world.

Thanks, Jan for this question. I realized how much I learned from school, not only about academics, but also about the real life.

coffee break ver. 1.20

What characteristics of a school are you looking for?

Thanks, Jan, for this very timely question. My husband and I decided to send our little son to toddler school this school year. My reasons are stated in another post.

My main criteria for choosing ICBB (Innovative Center for Beginning Beginners) as my son's first school:

Their track record - Like most other moms, I asked around for good preschools within the area. There are actually a lot near us and sometimes I got a little confused when asking people, since different people will give different recommendations. I decided to try ICBB out when I was told that ICBB kids didn't have problems shifting to a more traditional system when they go to big school and actually thrive and perform very well when they do.

Their teachers - I had the pleasure to observe the teachers with the children, including my son (since I enrolled him for summer school). I love the way teachers relate to the students. They were very patient with the small children and they actually were able to make the kids listen to them. My son learned to line up for his turn at washing up, learned to get his own snack bag, learned to sit still at the table for his snacks. All without raising their voices a bit. These may be small things but I think they matter in the long run.

As for the more academic stuff, they teach children via storytelling, singing, art, playing. Even rest time, and snack time is an opportunity for learning. And the kids all seem to be having fun, but at the same time they are already learning.

My son's class is going to be consisting of only 8 students to 1 teacher. There is also 1 teacher aide to assist the teacher. The school assures me though, that if there is a particularly hard to handle student, they sometimes add another teacher.

My son -- He's happy! He learns! He now has friends :). More about that on this post.

Tuition fee - Let me first state that the tuition fee here is quite hefty. But when I compared them with other small schools in the area (and some other areas as well), it seems to be within the range and even seems to be at the lower end.
Although I am very willing to spend for a good quality education for my kid, I want something I can sustain. I do not want to send him to a school wherein I the tuition fee will be higher than what I can afford and which will have me going into debt.

Distance - Very near. This is always an advantage. My son does not have to have a big lead time when going to school so he does not have to wake up VERY early. It will be easier for me or my husband to drop him off at school and pick him up later. There is less fuel usage, which in turn translates to a lot of savings, especially in these times of high fuel prices. In times when school is suddenly called off, especially with weather changes, it would be easy for someone to go and pick him up.

Chinese lessons - This is really a bonus for other parents, but for me, I really want my son to have Chinese lessons since I'm of Chinese ancestry. I am planning to send my son to Chinese-Filipino big school later on so I do want him to have a head start already by then.

Location - It is inside an exclusive subdivision. It seems to be safer since not just anybody can go inside the village. I'm a bit paranoid about kidnapping incidents especially since my son really looks Chinese (you know kidnappers have a predilection for Chinese). Also, the road outside the school, since it's a village road, is not as busy as other streets, hence there are less incidences of accidents.

My criteria for his big school (later) is slightly different. I will probably tackle it at a later time, since big school is about 2 years away.

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Additional plugging: Watch out for the 2nd edition of the Pinoy Parenting Blog Carnival, which tackles on the issues of school. I'm still working on the roundup.

Coffee Break ver. 1.10

How would you spend a rainy day on a lazy afternoon?

What I would like to do:
Laze around with a cup of hot drink, watching DVDs with my husband
Play with my son
Surf the net
Sleep :)

What I would most likely do:
Work in the clinic
Work on my sideline

What I should do:
Tidy up my room, my closets and my desk!

Thanks, Jan!